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So, if a woman cannot use birth control pills nor have a temporary sterilization, and therefore the only usable contraceptive is a condom, her sex life is always unprotected?
Condoms can break if there is a long hair in a spot where it manages to cut the condom's head off. You can learn to check for that, but many people learn that through, well, trial and error.
Whaaaaat?
Seriously. If you wear a working condom, it's protected. If you then find out it broke, you learn it actually turned into unprotected sex somewhere in the process.
This isn't rocket science.
It isn't rocket science, but it sometimes the condom having broken gets noticed only when the woman feels something liquid-ish inside her that should not be there. I wouldn't stigmatize inexperienced people as having had unprotected sex if they have done all they can with the knowledge they have to protect themselves.
But that IS unprotected. Not anyone's fault, but still.
I do see the point about stigmatization
since condoms are pretty much the best way to protect against all kinds of stds for sex that includes penises, people should learn to use them probably regardless of other forms of birth control they might or might not use.
but overall: if you have unprotected sex, you have unprotected sex, yes.
And also, if you have protected wex, you have protected sex, yes.
One interesting question: how do you know you have learned everything you need to know about condomology? If I understand right, you consider protected sex unprotected, if the people having it are not aware of some safety aspect regarding how to use a condom.
You seem to find it important to stigmatise people for having unprotected sex even in situations where they, by their own understanding, are having protected sex. I'd like you to elaborate a bit more on your philosophy, please! :)
no, that's you projecting, i never implied having unprotected sex is a bad thing and don't have a desire to drive figurative nails into anyones hands or feets.
and overall my philosophy regarding safe sex is simple:
if you don't want kids, use any form of birth control that works for the people involved and if you are not sure about yourself or anyother people involved carrying an std use condoms, regardless of other forms of birth control.
I'm sorry where did they stigmatize people for any sort of sex here?
You can accidentally have unprotected sex by using a condom improperly or using a damaged condom. That's just a fact with no judgement attached to it. If, after the act, you find out that the condom failed for some reason or if you made the decision to have unprotected sex (again zero judgement, I'm not your dad) plan B is not an irresponsible option for contraception. No stigma
Is having unprotected sex not a rather idiotic thing to do, unless you specifically want to have a child?
I don't make judgements like that. It's none of my business what 1 or more consenting adults do in private.
Why the shift from irresponsible to idiotic?