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I myself am considering vaginoplasty as well, though it's a bit hard to decide. CW, dysphoria and sexual stuff.
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On one hand, I don't particularly like torsion, and I remember how I was embarassed with my parts as an early teen. I've always wanted to be pregnant and would do anything for that. According to protocols for trans women, for that, orchi at the very least would need be done. That's fine with me, though personally I feel a bit weird not having the full parts of either, so I'd prefer going the full way (which also can be done according to the protocol).I also never really liked peeing standing up, mostly because others would see my part, and also it'd be making more of a mess. I also don't like the feel of it being that visible and didn't like public erections being a possibility.
On another hand, now that I'm on HRT, I experience SO MUCH less dysphoria from the constant urge to wank it. My libido crashed and I'm so happy. I feel in control of my body instead of the opposite. Everytime I wanked, I felt a bit dirty and gross afterward. I don't really want to tuck nor do it everyday. I can still feel pleasure and do top, sometimes (though, I also feel partial to being penetrated). But then, what to do? That is hard. I didn't really have an urge to CUT it off, but I also felt detached and indifferent from my part.
Ultimately, I think I know that a surgery would help (and thus also spoke to a psychologist about this), but I also wonder for the 1% of my mind that's still doubtful. Rationally spoken, being able to pee standing up is nice, but I don't care about that at all; and rationally I think it's easier to orgasm with a dick. How is that post-op? Is sensitivity kept and orgasming fairly easy?
This is the case in where I feel, go ahead with advice. I want to hear it from others, and then decide on my own.
These are all really good thoughts, and I encourage you to take all the time you need to process your decision. Sexual topics ahead:
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I found that on the less frequent occasions now where I do masturbate, there is both less dysphoria and more pleasure from stimulating the glans and surrounding area as though it was my clitoris. I had already wanted a vaginoplasty, but this solidified my decision. Though I will add I personally don't enjoy topping because of dysphoria, and also have too much sensitivity now for it to be enjoyable.Thanks, I def will consider all that! Hmm, interesting. Got some questions, all also sexual topic stuff.
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What kind of surgery did you have, if I may ask? Of vaginoplasty methods a consideration is how well vasculated it would be (an important consideration for an eventual uterine transplant, if I ever can do so) as well the need for dilation & whether it's self-lubricating. And of course whether it looks 'natural' from outside and inside. But yeah. the ideal would be something that hits them all. Not sure if that exists.Since you do seem to be able to experience stimulation there, out of curiosity, would you say it's easier or harder than with the former part to achieve orgasm (or 'wetness')? And does the feeling also differ? Like, I've not had surgery yet, but since being on HRT, I notice that I no longer need the 'cooldown' after orgasming, which is great, though I also don't feel like I achieve the 'trance' state anymore, and thus the sensory 'peak' is more moderate.
Sorry to be confusing; I have decided on a full vaginoplasty but have not yet had the surgery.
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I am going for a peritoneal flap vaginoplasty. As far as I know, the only type of VP that can reliably self lubricate would be where they take tissue from the inside of your mouth, though that has the obvious drawback of limited material to work with. Among other things, what I like most about the peritoneal flap is that loss of depth is less of a concern. (Though dilation is still required)