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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Surgery Questions (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 days ago by MissesAutumnRains@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Hey hey all! TW about surgery questions regarding SRS parts and stuff like that.

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I have a question that I don't really know where else to ask. I have a specific set of dysmorphic concerns. Not everything kicks off the feelings, but some things always do.

One of the things that always triggers the feeling is testicles. I fucking hate having them, seeing them, feeling them. It's easily among the worst (or tied for the worst) things to deal with. I've looked at the possibility of seeking an orchiectomy, but a very small part of me is afraid that doing something like that but not going for "full SRS surgery" will just cause people to treat me differently. The question is only becoming a bit more real lately to me now that I may have the opportunity to actually get the surgery in the coming year or two.

Maybe it's a bit silly or whatever and I know gender and all of this is really complicated and more just up to us individually, but I guess I'm just curious what others think about all of this.

Has anyone done similar? How has it changed your dating life afterwards? Has it affected you in other ways? What kinda considerations are there for something like this?

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[–] irotsoma@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago

I got vaginoplasty, but even with that it's not 100% the same as being a cis-woman, and there are still prejudices to deal with. There are some scars, arousal doesn't produce lubrication, etc. The differences are minor, but prejudices can blow them out of proportion no matter which way you go.

And if you totally pretend to be cis, you're probably not going to be satisfied by partners. Either them not being patient with low testosterone effects on erections, not using lube, prejudices against or fetishizing of trans-people overall, etc.

So, either choice is going to limit your pool of potential partners either way. Only way to avoid that these days is to not transition physically, but that's not a reasonable reason alone to not do it, IMHO.