this post was submitted on 16 Apr 2026
20 points (100.0% liked)

Transfem

5434 readers
191 users here now

A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.

Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.

Some helpful links:

Support Hotlines:

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Hey hey all! TW about surgery questions regarding SRS parts and stuff like that.

spoilerI have a question that I don't really know where else to ask. I have a specific set of dysmorphic concerns. Not everything kicks off the feelings, but some things always do.

One of the things that always triggers the feeling is testicles. I fucking hate having them, seeing them, feeling them. It's easily among the worst (or tied for the worst) things to deal with. I've looked at the possibility of seeking an orchiectomy, but a very small part of me is afraid that doing something like that but not going for "full SRS surgery" will just cause people to treat me differently. The question is only becoming a bit more real lately to me now that I may have the opportunity to actually get the surgery in the coming year or two.

Maybe it's a bit silly or whatever and I know gender and all of this is really complicated and more just up to us individually, but I guess I'm just curious what others think about all of this.

Has anyone done similar? How has it changed your dating life afterwards? Has it affected you in other ways? What kinda considerations are there for something like this?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do what you want for you. How many people are going to see your genitals? How many of them are going to care if you have balls or not? If they care, is it a big loss?

[–] MissesAutumnRains@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Girl, I'm a slut, so many people will see, hahaha. I guess you're right about not caring whether other people care or not, though. I think I just wanna know because it would change how I think about it before I make the decision (as much as I hate to admit it).

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think I'd be a lil sad if I couldn't gobble a girls balls but like, I can't see that being much more than like, a preference💅 if it's a dealbreaker were they worth your time?

[–] MissesAutumnRains@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Probably not... I'm too desperate for any level of validation to not at least consider it, though.

I mean, you're right, obviously. I should absolutely not worry about them. Buuuuuuuuuut, what if 'the one' was only mildly transphobic and had a preference 🥺 <--- The literally dumbass way my brain works.

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

petpat you deserve better than that, girlie.

😭 I'll work on it.