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29 isn't that late tbh. I know plenty that started later and have had great results.
Regarding the upkeep situation, once a day is probably not necessary. 2 or 3 a week will keep you situated, though you'll know if you need more. It becomes painful to have an erection if you don't keep up, as the skin loses elasticity.
Hrt can and will change your libido, especially early days, which you're in. I had to keep a log of when I would use it so I wouldn't lose it and compared to T dominance I was just never in the mood for it. That changed after a while and adding progesterone, though it was/is still different and less. If you are interested in bottom surgery it's still prudent to keep on top of maintaining the muscle, especially if you get the penile inversion vaginoplasty, as it'll get you better results and likely an easier time healing.
Like another person said, you might have more dysphoria than you realized, and lessening the other issues might allow more space for other dysphoria to become more obvious. That is what the case was for me and my bottom dysphoria.
Regarding vers/top/whatever and your dating prospects, you can be vers or a top and not use your natal junk or your junk at all. And, in my opinion, I wouldnt make decisions on your body and how you like to use it based on what other people would find appealing/useful.