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Hey, im 20M. I have only dated and thought abt dating women. I only get turned on by women. However, I like dressing up like a girl, sometimes. Sometimes, ill throw on thigh highs and wear an oversized sweater when im home alone. Im just so confused about this. I have never felt an urge to date men... so why exactly do I do these things? I feel so confused, and I have been this way for years. Up until last year I never dressed or experimented being more "girly". I do this all in the privacy of my bedroom, never outside of it.

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[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago

Gender and sexuality are separate things. Just because you have a feminine side doesn't mean you have to be attracted to men. I'm trans, and when I was 16 I would also dress femme alone in my room sometimes, so I get what it's like. (Not saying you're trans, it's perfectly okay to be a guy who likes to dress femme.) Figuring out why and what it means for you takes a lot of introspection and is only something you can answer.