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Hey, im 20M. I have only dated and thought abt dating women. I only get turned on by women. However, I like dressing up like a girl, sometimes. Sometimes, ill throw on thigh highs and wear an oversized sweater when im home alone. Im just so confused about this. I have never felt an urge to date men... so why exactly do I do these things? I feel so confused, and I have been this way for years. Up until last year I never dressed or experimented being more "girly". I do this all in the privacy of my bedroom, never outside of it.

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[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago

well, it doesn't sound like you're confused about your sexuality, but rather, your gender. in case you didn't know, those are separate concepts (what gender you're attracted to vs what gender you identify as)

have you taken some time to consider if you really enjoy being a man? when you look into the mirror, and you look at your face, does it look right to you? or does something feel wrong? these are just a few of many questions that might help you uncover any underlying gender dysphoria (or lack thereof)

i'm about to go to bed, but you can read about it more here: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ i'm a transgender man (so, ftm), but i know a lot of transgender women, as well, so feel free to ask follow up questions if you have them