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so many hugs
put on his wet food https://www.headwayanimalhealth.com.au/oralfungol-oral-solution/
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Put the urn on a shelf. Look at it. Don't hug it. Don't reinforce difficult emotions.Thanks, I might get that when he’s finished the pills - that’s if it lets me without a script. It says one a day for 2 weeks but I was only given 8 so it might have to be every second day. (And from what I’ve seen it’s usually a couple times a week?)
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It brings me some comfort. It kind of feels sometimes like she’s still with me. And she hasn’t been forgotten about.Title
Can see both sides. Is there some way to make it a ritual? At a time of day sit/hug her? Like morning and night, hug and talk to her, then move. I am not saying move on or that you restrict your feelings but I find it helps to ritualise grief, by allowing it it's space you can feel all the feelings and also live? Sorry not being articulate.(For reference triggered to cry my eyes out over someone who's been gone for a decade today. So I get it. Any way through is ok. )
Grief isn't trauma. They're different things. Melba can hug that urn as often and as long as they need
I hug the urn at night because she used to sleep in my arms
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ok. hugs