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First real wrangling of the beast… I got him to come over for food then scooped him into my crouched lap and dripped the pill crushed with water into his mouth the same way I used to with Melbcat.
No hissing or scratching but his squirming and fighting was frantic. Feel bad that I restrained him until he’d had it all before I let him go. He ran away and looked back a couple of times while I was apologetically calling but disappeared into the night utterly disgusted with me. I hope it hasn’t lost the trust I built up. I’m meant to do this every day 😔
But what am I supposed to do? Can’t let him be a scabby boy. No fosters want a ringworm cat because it would spread to their other healthy ones, and to have a separate ringworm section I’d have to surrender him to a no kill shelter. I can’t see him doing well there even if they accepted him.
I’m so shitty I returned Melbcat’s unused meds because one of them was a very effective anti-anxiety medication. It could really have helped me with this. I might have to try him on Zylkene to see if it helps him adjust to all this.
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I also called Griefline earlier because I’m missing my baby girl so much. This new crisis is overshadowing her but her loss is seeping through. In the quiet times I have I’m remembering her and holding her urn and really going through it. I wish I had the opportunity to slow down and deal with things.That's the worst part for me. The falling into the holes in your life where they're supposed to be. hugs
Don't try and have a timeline. Grief sets its own meter
Yep. It keeps getting you
so many hugs
put on his wet food https://www.headwayanimalhealth.com.au/oralfungol-oral-solution/
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Put the urn on a shelf. Look at it. Don't hug it. Don't reinforce difficult emotions.Thanks, I might get that when he’s finished the pills - that’s if it lets me without a script. It says one a day for 2 weeks but I was only given 8 so it might have to be every second day. (And from what I’ve seen it’s usually a couple times a week?)
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It brings me some comfort. It kind of feels sometimes like she’s still with me. And she hasn’t been forgotten about.Title
Can see both sides. Is there some way to make it a ritual? At a time of day sit/hug her? Like morning and night, hug and talk to her, then move. I am not saying move on or that you restrict your feelings but I find it helps to ritualise grief, by allowing it it's space you can feel all the feelings and also live? Sorry not being articulate.(For reference triggered to cry my eyes out over someone who's been gone for a decade today. So I get it. Any way through is ok. )
Grief isn't trauma. They're different things. Melba can hug that urn as often and as long as they need
I hug the urn at night because she used to sleep in my arms
hugs
ok. hugs