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You're more than welcome to buy what you fancy, I don't recall saying it was unavoidable. I even think I mentioned why we somehow manged to make it as... present as it is, and how we should try to get rid of most of it (hint: through education).
Can we get rid of all of it? Nope, unless one is to pretend we're perfect? Don't know about you but I'm certainly not perfect.
My belief is that toxicity online is like building a six lane highway through a residential neighborhood. If you build the infrastructure to support more cars, and the law allows speeding you're going to get more cars (and more car accidents).
If you build platforms that don't allow cars/limit their behavior where people are trying to have a polite conversation, you'll see quiet more thoughtful modes of transportation and fewer innocent bystanders get hurt.
Wow that analogy worked pretty well.
My opinion is that toxicity can be found in every little gesture in our daily life, no need for an highway. It's also not somethign 'external' to us that appears because of poor decisions. It can and often thrives even in the most 'humble' or humane 'infrastructures', to use you image. Suffice to look how two people, say two neighbors, can literally hate on one another for petty reasons.
People can have a fight on the street, or in a pub, in a shop, at work, or wherever, even at home, within a family circle, because "he looked at me!" or because "I don't like the way he dress" kind of reasons. Do you really think tech is the issue?
But once again, you're more than welcome to believe what you want to believe. Just don't try to put words in my mouth that I did not say.
I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, but it sure seems like you're saying that toxicity can inevitably be found in every little gesture in our daily life, including internet platforms, which is a narrative I disagree with.
Pretty much all pubs and shops I know quickly expel and ban people who fight there. If those places allowed fighting (as many internet platforms do) users looking for a fight would eventually gravitate there, and people looking to discuss peacefully will go elsewhere.
No, I'm saying people are the issue. Toxicity is not something that can be found everywhere, it only pops up where it's allowed to flourish.