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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Hi I'm Azura~ (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

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Hi, I'm Azura! I am so happy I have found my way to this community.

Self Realization

This year I've been checking out lemmy. Just lurking around, being mostly drawn to !transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone and !196@lemmy.blahaj.zone because reading your posts and comments gave me this weird, funny, wholesome warmth that I just couldn't explain. "Like joy, but it hits differently".

relevant memes (spoiler)

One comment lead me to look up the "egg prime directive". 2nd search result was an article title Am I Trans, which answers the question, but - as the title implies - also goes beyond. And... oh girl, was that an emotional roller coaster! It's so suspiciously on point, I still need to figure out if the author (Cassie LaBelle) is secretly me from the future.

Early on in adolescence I started "accepting" that I wasn't afab and learned to suppress my feelings, to keep my fantasies in my dreams. I've actually asked myself several times throughout my life if I should consider a "transsexual transition", but my archaic understanding of the concepts made the whole thing appear scarier than it is. "What's to gain if I don't even hate myself"?

Gladly, the Am I Trans article cleared up a lot of my misunderstandings and fears. And the posts on lemmy.blahaj.zone gave me so much joy and hope! I knew that denying it any longer was hopeless. Not just becoming a woman, but the thought of having always been one feels oddly right to me. So, on my favorite day of the year, I hit that turn-me-into-a-girl.com button and transformed my lack of self hate into actual self love. Now here I am! As of writing: ✨ still closeted ✨

But I'm working on a coming out. I am certain that my friends, coworkers and close family are all supportive, which is a great privilege.

About me

I'm about 30-ish, a programmer and political activist. I boycott eating animals. I live in a small city in Germany. I guess I can start considering myself a mom? No clue how long one has to wait for HRT here, but maybe my daughter and I will both hit puberty in parallel 😅

Shout out to @TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone and @QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works, your posts were the stars that guided me through the night🥚.

Love, Azura

Wait, almost forgot to add a photo. It hints at how I came up with the name "Azura".

photo of me (spoiler)

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[–] MapleFawn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 hours ago

I wish I had that bucket of magic, button or any other instant perfect fixes. Sadly I have not found it yet so in the meantime I try to get on HRT and possibly FFS depending on the effects of the former and how my therapy is going. Tomorrow is my second appointment :3

I am glad that you found more confidence and hope that this community will continue to be good for you.

I don’t know anyone else nor have I seen (consciously) any other trans person in IRL. Now I hyper focus so much on my own body and its features that I don’t think I can make any reasonably accurate assessment about mine or anyone else’s body because of my own distorted views.