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obviously this isn’t the majority of autistic people i come across, but as an autistic person, why do some “lower support needs” autistic people make fun of/be mean to those who need more help with th (piefed.social)
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sorry if this is offensive. im autistic too and just curious. i have come across several people who are autistic making fun of or being rude to other neurodivergent folks, especially those who are autistic but need more support.

a good example of this was my ex-girlfriend “lynn". she hated my adhd + i think autistic friend (he told me he was autistic but then said he didn’t know). she would always talk behind his back on how annoying he was and would snap at him, going “mhm, yeah sure.” whenever he would talk and just being sarcastic.

lynn also, despite being autistic, said i was too weird to connect with and form a bond with and said we couldn’t be friends because we didn’t form an instant bond.

furthermore, my other ex-gf kayla questioned autism/neurodivergence. kayla also told me my autism made her uncomfortable, called me weird for having mental breakdowns and stimming, talking behind my back, and later completely ignoring my messages so we don’t even talk anymore when i tried to be her friend and forgive her.

so yeah, why don’t some neurodivergent people understand what it's like? wouldn’t it make sense for them to?

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[–] quickenparalysespunk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

it's analogous to how some lgbtq or black people join the US Republican party. people don't always see their own core identity as what others perceive as their most core identity.

for instance, because nowadays there is less of certain types of institutional oppression constantly telling black men "you're black and that's terrible", their self perception may instead center on being straight male (not to say that they forget about their racialized identity or don't care) and they might focus and worry more about maintaining patriarchy than freeing black people.

similarly LSN NDs may identify more with neurotypical out of an instinct (often subconscious, but sometimes conscious and malicious) to preserve their already threatened social status within ableist society, rather than to join HSN NDs in the upcoming long arduous fight to raise up all NDs.

this fight has barely begun and even though society less frequently commits blatant atrocities against NDs than in the 1800s/1900s, many horrors are still to come.

edit: clarification