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obviously this isn’t the majority of autistic people i come across, but as an autistic person, why do some “lower support needs” autistic people make fun of/be mean to those who need more help with th (piefed.social)

submitted 19 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) by anonclare@piefed.social to c/autism@lemmy.world

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sorry if this is offensive. im autistic too and just curious. i have come across several people who are autistic making fun of or being rude to other neurodivergent folks, especially those who are autistic but need more support.

a good example of this was my ex-girlfriend “lynn". she hated my adhd + i think autistic friend (he told me he was autistic but then said he didn’t know). she would always talk behind his back on how annoying he was and would snap at him, going “mhm, yeah sure.” whenever he would talk and just being sarcastic.

lynn also, despite being autistic, said i was too weird to connect with and form a bond with and said we couldn’t be friends because we didn’t form an instant bond.

furthermore, my other ex-gf kayla questioned autism/neurodivergence. kayla also told me my autism made her uncomfortable, called me weird for having mental breakdowns and stimming, talking behind my back, and later completely ignoring my messages so we don’t even talk anymore when i tried to be her friend and forgive her.

so yeah, why don’t some neurodivergent people understand what it's like? wouldn’t it make sense for them to?

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[–] Ciderpunk@lemmy.world 6 points 18 hours ago

I think it’s just an unfortunate part of human nature to enjoy looking down on others. Don’t get me a wrong, a lot of people can get over that, but some people don’t. It’s an easy shortcut to feeling better about oneself that a lot of people fall in to.

When I was younger, I pointed out a friend of mine had trouble making eye contact. It was a shitty thing of me to do because I’ve spent my entire life getting shit on because I avoid eye contact like the plague. I felt immediately bad about doing it and apologized later. I had to really inspect why it was I felt like that was an acceptable thing to do, because it certainly was not.

I find it helpful to point out to people that they inherently understand that it feels bad to have people make fun of you or belittle you, and they need to put themselves in the other persons shoes. Sometimes it’s just that, someone did not even think to make the connection that being treated that way doesn’t feel good, so you shouldn’t do that to other people.