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I've gone on dates with non-binary people, but usually they have off-putting personalities and beliefs or were quite rude and weird.
I get matches from them on dating apps too, but again, usually they are very hostile/angry or have other off-putting life-style stuff, like being poly, so I just don't bother engaging.
I'd have no issue being in a relationship with a person, if they didn't have the baggage or weird off-putting beliefs that seem to come with being non-binary. Especially the 'edgelord' personality nonsense that seems to be really common among queer/non-binary people. I have met queer folks who weren't like that, but only in a non-romantic context, in romantic context the ones i attract are very much the teenage edgelords.
I wonder how much of that rudeness/hostility is because they quickly clocked you as a very judgemental person and were annoyed at wasting their time going on said date?
Queer people have to deal with a lot of entitled, judgemental people (particularly those willing to date cishet men). You can only encounter so many people who think themselves better than you or who exhibit traits like toxic masculinity or prejudicial beliefs before becoming jaded.
It's not necessarily you, it's all the shitty people that came before you that set the bar so low that it's underground. You need to show you're at least better than that abysmally low standard before someone's likely to open up to you.
Yeah, I do notice a lot of people with shitty attitudes and toxic personalities call me judgemental.
And I also notice people who don't have those personalities, like me.
I wonder why that is? I can't think of any reason... many it's like when the tankies on lemmy tell me i'm an ignorant and brainwashed by capitalism if i don't think China is a utopian state?