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Never done it. Actually tempted out of curiosity, but just feels like another additional task. Married with kids, so it's not like I'm out there trying to win the Best Groomed Junk game. I'm curious though, is natural (but clean) junk a deal breaker for some of you? It was never a factor in my dating game, but then I'm old AF.
For me clean shaved is my preference but calling it a deal break is a bit extreme. I fully understand that hair is natural and the idea of being perfectly shaven at all times is basically impossible. Hair grows both slower and way faster than we expect and the "fresh shaved" part only lasts for a day. As for why it's a strong preference; I love giving oral but hair in my mouth is not good. Like I might vomit with gusto and force on a hair trigger not good. (Pun intended)
Partners I've had in the past have been fine with just trimmed, but have been put off by full bush when giving BJs. Unless you have some kind of kink about it, most people don't find hair in the mouth enjoyable.
PIV -> bush fine
Normal BJ -> trimmed fine
Really going to town on the balls and shaft -> clean shaven preferred
And personally, I don't enjoy the sight or feel of hair on my partners' junk - clean shaved is definitely ideal for me personally. If they're just trimmed, that's okay - it makes it a little less sexy for me, but whatever. But if a partner just started never shaving at all, I would bring it up as a polite request, and then possibly stop getting physical with them. So since I have these preferences, I figure it is reasonable for me to put the effort in to match theirs