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Why or why not?

If so, would it depend on how they present or their assigned gender at birtb or something else?

(Edit: fixed AGAB to confuse less people. Sorry people.)

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[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 50 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Depends if they have a pussy. In general most non-binary people I've met haven't been particularly androgynous. Which is one of the reasons they confuse me.

But yeah if they've got the body type I enjoy and a good personality then sure. No way I could make a universal statement though.

[–] ClusterBomb@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yep. There's a general confusion between gender identity and gender expression, that's why you "expect" non-binary to look androgynous. But indeed, a nonbinary can have a cisman-passing or a ciswoman-passing. I am non-binary and I "look like a man" and it causes me to be insulted or mocked when I go out with makeup or wearing a skirt.

But yeah basically all you need to understand is that gender identity does not have to match a gender expression.

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 day ago

Ok apparently I'm more ignorant than I thought lol thanks for explaining.