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Why or why not?

If so, would it depend on how they present or their assigned gender at birtb or something else?

(Edit: fixed AGAB to confuse less people. Sorry people.)

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

That sounds like it would only work if the straight person can easily interpret the non-binary person as "basically like a cis man/woman just with different pronouns", and the non-binary person either has the same set of genitals that you'd expect based on their appearance, or the straight person just doesn't care about unexpected genitals, which seems rare.

But I'm bi, so I wouldn't know.

[–] moondoggie@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

“Unexpected genitals” sounds like you find them between their shoulder blades

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I know plenty of gay women who are into gock, so why don't straight men like gock?

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 14 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Toxic masculinity, heteronormativity etc.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 7 points 1 day ago

That makes sense, masculinity is the main thing straight men have that gay women don't. And if it's stopping them from enjoying themselves, it sounds toxic.

[–] sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Some straight men do like gock.

My husband is one of them.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I hope you both have fun pegging him organic style

[–] sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 5 points 1 day ago

For better or worse, I’m a cis bisexual woman so the usual pegging is what we’ve got. I love the term “organic style pegging” though hahah

But he really does enjoy gock and he really is straight.

[–] NannerBanner@literature.cafe 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lol, the whole 'non-binary' thing is so weird to me, since I like the lads and the lassies. As long as they tick the attractive boxes, like confident, smart, and being into me, it's like getting a christmas morning present every time I wake up next to them.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

It's not well-defined or anything. It's basically a wastebin kind of classification, as in 'oh I'm not this or that, so i guess I'm non-binary'.

It also acts as a holding space for people who haven't figured our who they want to be.

in my interactions iwth non-binary people, there are a lot of them who seem to be into that classification of themselves as some sort of 'fighting the patriarchy' or 'refusing to be labeled' type of teenage rebellion attitude stuff. also a lot of poly, alt, kink, etc lifestyle folks, at least on my dating apps.