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Realized something awesome this morning. After girlmoding off and on all weekend, the wife and I took a mental health day yesterday. She needed some boy mode time with me to help sort through our feelings. We were also hella wrecked from all the easter socializing.

Anywho, as I've said before I work in the trades around mostly straight right-wing men. You know the funniest thing about straight right-wing men? They are the gayest mother fuckers on the planet. I squeezed past a guy in the shit shack durring morning huddle and he said 'oh so you don't want to cuddle with me?' Which I replied ' No, I just want to hold you from behind' 'okay, you can be the big spoon'

Later on the guys were signing up for softball and were pressing me to join. I'm really not a sports girl, so I told them I'd just be their cheerleader. 'I already have a cheerleader, it's my wife' and I said 'that's okay, you can have two. We'll even get matching outfits!'

They laugh cuz it's a joke and I'm just sitting there picturing myself in a cute uniform with pig tails and pom-poms.

I may have to boy mode on the outside, but no one can stop me girl moding on the inside.

Stay tuned for more thoughts and (hopefully soon) pictures from me! Have a wonderful day ladies! Love you!

♡♡♡Nissa♡♡♡

Edit:Spell check

A guy from straight different trade just came up to me and said 'Hey Beautiful, how we doing'. Inside I'm grinning ear to ear!

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[–] Nissa@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Um, good i guess. My wife was raised catholic in a very repressed household, so she never learned how to quantify her emotions let alone express them. I came from the opposite so I have no qualms letting my emotions flow and have been working with her on how to for the last 7 years.

She has made a ton of progress but is still working on it. She's been in therapy for a few years and I think it's helping but it's a struggle to learn something you were forced to ignore for 30 years.

For the most part she still loves and supports me no matter what but isn't sure how she feels. It's a confusing situation for the both of us. I think it's the conflict of being okay with me as Nissa and the thought of loesing her husband, in the metaphorical sense.

Well that sounds like a potential side if worry, but also like an opportunity for your bond to grow. Wish you both the best!