this post was submitted on 06 Apr 2026
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A little maybe, but not much.

I've seen people say they left reddit to join Lemmy because of the toxic users. To each their own, but I personally think Lemmings aren't much better. Some people over here can't understand that sensitive questions can be asked without bad intent. People are way too defensive about their opinions.

It is disappointing, but it's the better option.

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[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Frame shift:

So then how would you attempt to make things better?

Lemmy isn't a monolith, you can start your own instance if you wanted to, make your own comm, even propose design changes to the codebase, if you take the time to understand how it actually currently works.

Instances can federate or defederate, you as a user can block other users or comms... you can even block mods or instance admins.

Instances themselves often have different baseline rules, entry/joining processes/requirements, different levels of discussion about what rules and policies should be.

The whole point is that the fragmentation is the strength of the system. You have more power and can more easily manage your own experience, but this requires a bit more active engagement on your part.

I'm not trying to say that you shouldn't be able to complain about problems that you see, but I am suggesting that you should then take the next step beyond that, and try to be proactive.

Be warned though: Any suggested changes are likely to be much more complex than you probably think they will be, and will likely be much more controversial than simply noticing that things could be better.