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Relevant xkcd:

(Caption above the panels:)    How Standards Proliferate    (See: A/C chargers, character encodings, instant messaging, etc.)    (A text-only panel.)    Situation:     There are 14 competing standards.(Cueball and Ponytail stand facing each other.)    Cueball: 14?! Ridiculous! We need to develop one universal standard that covers everyone's use cases.    Ponytail: Yeah!    (Another text-only panel. The word "Soon:" appears in its own box at the upper left of the panel.)    Soon:    Situation:    There are 15 competing standards.

https://xkcd.com/927/

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[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 12 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

It seems to me the kaleidoscoping of the unity that rainbow flag aimed for doesn't make the community stronger. I feel the drive to have some constantly evolving all inclusive name and define each and every subset of queer hurts the brand. Instead of a united community there's tiny little fifedoms that are cliquey and far from universally welcoming. By so rigorously defining the individual the community gets lost and the message gets drowned in a see of voices yelling their specific flavour of gay.

It brings this joke to mind:

Once I saw this guy on a bridge about to jump. I said, “Don’t do it!” He said, “Nobody loves me.” I said, “God loves you. Do you believe in God?” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Are you a Christian or a Jew?” He said, “A Christian.” I said, “Me, too! Protestant or Catholic?” He said, “Protestant.” I said, “Me, too! What franchise?” He said, “Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Baptist or Southern Baptist?” He said, “Northern Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist or Northern Liberal Baptist?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region, or Northern Conservative Baptist Eastern Region?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region.” I said, “Me, too!” Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1879, or Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912.” I said, “Die, heretic!” And I pushed him over.

This is just my observation as an old out of touch cis guy with a queer daughter.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 3 points 1 hour ago

Hear, hear!

I'm old enough to remember when terms like mullato and quadroon were common expressions.

People started using 'Black' to get away from that mind set.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 4 points 1 hour ago

Believe it or not, there's a lot of queer people who are pretty bigoted against other groups under the queer label. The classic example being LGBdroptheT. The affirmations of specific groups are a reaction to that in-community bigotry, which sociologists call lateral violence. These all-encompasing terms like gsrm don't always fulfil the function of explicitly including groups that suffer lateral violence.

There's even trans people on Lemmy who claim that nounself pronouns are a transphobic trolling tactic.