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In that situation, when you asked her later, your friend should've said "Oh don't worry about it, I was able to resolve it without you, but thanks for checking in," and then changed the subject.
So if they don't respond to your "do you have time to talk" initial message, then you just don't invite them to the concert at all and never tell them about it?
All to avoid just asking them up-front whether they want to go or not?
That's wild, I genuinely don't understand how this is better in any way.
Imo if the question is urgent, either call them or add something to the text like "tickets are going quick and I'm going to buy them ASAP, so if I don't hear back by , I'll assume you're out"
Yep, that's right.
This is where I have to correct you. Not asking them straight out, and not mentioning it later if they don't respond, are both is service of avoiding putting pressure on them.
All you're avoiding is going to the concert with your friend.