You Should Know
YSK - for all the things that can make your life easier!
The rules for posting and commenting, besides the rules defined here for lemmy.world, are as follows:
Rules (interactive)
Rule 1- All posts must begin with YSK.
All posts must begin with YSK. If you're a Mastodon user, then include YSK after @youshouldknow. This is a community to share tips and tricks that will help you improve your life.
Rule 2- Your post body text must include the reason "Why" YSK:
**In your post's text body, you must include the reason "Why" YSK: It’s helpful for readability, and informs readers about the importance of the content. **
Rule 3- Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here.
Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here. Breaking this rule will not get you or your post removed, but it will put you at risk, and possibly in danger.
Rule 4- No self promotion or upvote-farming of any kind.
That's it.
Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.
Posts and comments which, instead of being of an innocuous nature, are specifically intended (based on reports and in the opinion of our crack moderation team) to bait users into ideological wars on charged political topics will be removed and the authors warned - or banned - depending on severity.
Rule 6- Regarding non-YSK posts.
Provided it is about the community itself, you may post non-YSK posts using the [META] tag on your post title.
Rule 7- You can't harass or disturb other members.
If you harass or discriminate against any individual member, you will be removed.
If you are a member, sympathizer or a resemblant of a movement that is known to largely hate, mock, discriminate against, and/or want to take lives of a group of people and you were provably vocal about your hate, then you will be banned on sight.
For further explanation, clarification and feedback about this rule, you may follow this link.
Rule 8- All comments should try to stay relevant to their parent content.
Rule 9- Reposts from other platforms are not allowed.
Let everyone have their own content.
Rule 10- The majority of bots aren't allowed to participate here.
Unless included in our Whitelist for Bots, your bot will not be allowed to participate in this community. To have your bot whitelisted, please contact the moderators for a short review.
Rule 11- Posts must actually be true: Disiniformation, trolling, and being misleading will not be tolerated. Repeated or egregious attempts will earn you a ban. This also applies to filing reports: If you continually file false reports YOU WILL BE BANNED! We can see who reports what, and shenanigans will not be tolerated. We are not here to ban people who said something you don't like.
If you file a report, include what specific rule is being violated and how.
Partnered Communities:
You can view our partnered communities list by following this link. To partner with our community and be included, you are free to message the moderators or comment on a pinned post.
Community Moderation
For inquiry on becoming a moderator of this community, you may comment on the pinned post of the time, or simply shoot a message to the current moderators.
Credits
Our icon(masterpiece) was made by @clen15!
view the rest of the comments
Oh yeah, I wasn’t trying to say it was a girls v boys thing but rather to point out the gender stereotypes those in charge were pushing as part of the message. They always assumed that girls don’t have to be told to not masturbate bc women aren’t sexual, men are. And yet, they had to constantly tell the girls to not dress slutty and tempt the boys. We were all taught fucked up things, they just changed it up slightly between the boys and girls to fit gender stereotypes
Oh, valid. Yeah, I remember being told "Guys think about sex every 11 seconds, that means we have to work really hard all the time to keep our minds pure, while women's minds are just pure by default."
I basically internalized this messaging that as guys, we're inherently perverted, disgusting, aberrant, and impure beings who need to constantly remain vigilant and fight with ourselves to keep our animalistic nature in check. You know, to protect women's chastity of course, because without us they would be perfectly pure beings with no sexuality whatsoever. Apparently...
That’s so fucked up. I always felt bad for the guys in my class because a lot of them were really sweet but some clearly internalized that messaging in the same way you did. No one should be made to feel like they’re a monster and inherently dangerous
Yeah, it took me deep into my twenties to unlearn all those subconscious patterns. It took a lot of digging, which at times felt like wandering blindly through a labyrinth. It wasn't a comfortable process, and there were many dead ends. At times I even wound up basically torturing myself in a misguided attempt to rewire my brain. No doubt informed by the underlying assumption that I'm somehow inherently evil and deserved the self-torture, as if the most virtuous thing I could do for the rest of my life was punish myself for being born.
I'm a lot healthier now, and I'm not sure how much of that was necessary, but ultimately it wasn't an easy process to deprogram myself, especially when I found very little social support when what I really needed was healthy mentorship, social acceptance and integration, and basically any good influences to drown out all the echos in my mind of voices from my past...
Like, this whole assumption we see so commonly, where guys have everything so easy and aren't harmed by the patriarchy too, it really needs to change, because it is harmful. Real feminists like bell hooks and carol gilligan acknowledge that.
I'm not claiming women don't have it bad, but whenever I even mention that men also face societal problems, I get flamed by pseudo-feminists who seem to believe "smash the patriarchy" means "bully any man who shows vulnerability or weakness." It's really sad.