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[–] jtrek@startrek.website 4 points 1 week ago

Six weeks is unrealistic to the point of self sabotage.

I found the best sequence is like

  • opener question
  • they give a good response
  • follow up
  • they give a good response
  • maybe repeat once more if there's an obvious follow up
  • clear any deal breakers (eg: if you have a kid)
  • ask them out

If they don't give good responses, bail.

You're going to get a lot more information meeting in person. Going for drinks or coffee or whatever is a couple hours and few bucks.