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It is objectively a lot more male than Reddit or other social media. Reddit has many issues, but lack of women is not one of them.

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[–] early_riser@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Lemmy? the politics.

the fediverse? I know I've said this like a billion times to the same five people who come on here, but federated platforms still ape the format of big social media platforms, and inherit many of their pitfalls. I want long-term discussion and human connection, not an endless waterfall of content that quickly gets swept away.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

isn't that what discord is about? sounds like you want a chat room community.

[–] early_riser@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

Absolutely not. If Lemmy is a content waterfall than Discord is Niagara. What I want is a forum. But nobody uses forums anymore.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

i use forums. but the average age of the userbase is like 55-60. you won't find anyone under the age of 40 on them.

[–] Jyek@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

I don't feel this way about discord communities I'm in. Maybe you should join smaller discord communities and actually make friends there. Hoping into a small group chat every once in a while to chat and make jokes or plan a dnd session or whatever. Does t need to be more than 10ish people to be enjoyable.

[–] how_we_burned@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago

Lol, reddit, lemmy and other similar social media are the equivalent fast food.

Twitter and bluesky are like a hot dog cart vendor. Probably more healthier to eat the hotdog then to consume the crap that comes down those channels.

Whilst tiktok is the equivalent of shooting meth. Skipping the meal although.

If you want long term discussions join the The Conversation or The Atlantic and comment there.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 3 weeks ago

I view this as a technical issue. I still feel if users have ultimate control at the account level. Something akin to trust cafe where you tank everything and you can have a view that takes those rankings into account. Then it will help people find similar things to what they want. I wish I could set a filter to not show any links or media that did not have some initial discusion. I don't want a picture or news article dropped in my lap I want the poster to say how he saw this picture or video or article or what have you and liked it because or hated it because or whatever. When I post I try my best to provide a personal context to the whole thing.