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Group think: I rarely comment here because of that..
Are you afraid of the downvotes? (Like not AFRAID afraid, but like reluctant because of.
I dont want to get downvoted to Hell, but like, I dont agree with every opinion and my opinion is equally as valid as anybody elses, and i'd argue that it's more important when it is counter to the echo chamber. But also, I'm not some hard right or hard left weirdo trying to incite anybody.
I say dont fear the downvotes -- contribute your thoughts for the sake of discourse.
I'm afraid of the harassment and being banned.
All it takes is a little dogpiling and usually the mod piles on too and bans you.
lemmy doesnt' really do DMs yet, but if it did I can bet I'd be getting TONS of nasty DMs from weirdos who take internet comments personally.
No, I don't care about the downvotes, I can just agree with the group and get upvoted, so Idc about upvotes either
I'm not fragile to the point where I can't stand by my opinion, I do even when I'm the only one holding it, but then I think what's the point (since I'm alone), why even bother!
I'm sensitive to echo chambers (I don't mind them as long as people are aware they're in one) but I'm really sensitive to group think, and I like to be that 10th guy who disagrees with the other 9, I like to be the devil's advocate, especially in political discussions, but do people get smart and see thru that? can't they see they out number me? and i could never win against 9 people?!! but the bigger disaster is that even the mods join the group think and remove entire threads, why? because there's only one in thread who's making trouble!
I should make it clear I don't go around and disagreeing for the sake of it, but for those instances that everyone is agreeing on something, there needs to be an opposition, concerns, questions.. etc otherwise this place becomes much worse than Facebook
I would contribute my thoughts if I saw that people were willing to engage in civil discussion, but 5 out of 10, they'll attack my character, and it doesn't have to be a heavy topic, I once asked why do people here seem to dislike emojies? and 30% of the comments were about how subhuman I'm for focusing on such silly topics (I'm certain they can't handle my heavy topics, I got a feeling) ¯_(ツ)_/¯
conclusion: it's a waste of energy to disagree with 9 people, (one of them might be a mod) when you're alone, 1v1 fair, 10v10, 3v10 even.. all fair.. 1v9 is not (add toxicity to it, lack of communication skills.. etc) it's just not worth it to engage