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I think telling someone your pronouns is fine, and if you tell me I will make an attempt to use them (I will remember exactly as well as I will remember your name, which is to say at least till the moment I meet the next person). I have NEVER met anyone who had a problem with this system, and I run in circles that have a very much above-average amount of gender stuff going on.
And if you DO get upset because I didn't proactively ask for your pronouns, instead of just telling me, then we're really not going to be talking much anyway.
Which is pretty much how I feel. Its fine if someone gives pronouns and I will do my best with it but it was not something historically I had to sorta tag people with so its a significant mental load comparatively. Its like all of a sudden having to remember everyones favorite cake or ice cream as a matter of course. That being said it being in a signature line of the email makes that pretty arbitrary but that being said its kinda annoying to have to find emails from people you talk to to see what the thing is for them. Don't get me started on people who don't use or ditch their signature in communications.