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Dunno why anyone downvoted you, you're entirely correct. Asking randos on the internet is no substitute for mental/medical issues. OP needs to talk to a/some professionals, not Derrick the keyboard warrior.
@hayyy@thelemmy.club
Probably because I said suicidal thoughts are normal and people don't like that uncomfortable fact.
Or downvoting it because on its surface that statement could be dangerous. But those people somehow missed the capslock text, explanation, etc. ๐คทโโ๏ธ
You can lead a horse to water. Etc, etc.
@IntrovertTurtle@lemmy.zip @foggy@lemmy.world @hayyy@thelemmy.club @mentalhealth@lemmy.world
I'm not among the downvoters, I can't really say for those who downvoted you both, but maybe it has to do with your both "talk to therapist" while knowing absolutely nothing about the OPs background, whether they could financially afford a therapist (therapy is often a paid service) or the meds prescribed (something we're required to purchase), whether they did "talk to a therapist" before talking to "randos on the internet"? You ppl didn't even consider the slightest possibility that the OP were, deep inside, trying to connect with someone, trying to find a _like-minded_ friend?
To be fair, OP didn't describe their background, didn't detail further... But this speaks volumes as someone trying to connect with someone while being selective about what they could say publicly (even when behind a pseudonym).
When someone posts something like "hey ppl, is it normal to be depressive?" without describing why, it's very likely that the person is hoping someone to come and ask "hey, why are those thoughts making it to your mind?" or even a mere "hi, I saw your post, uh, you can talk to me if you want". Some may label this behavior "attention-seeking", but isn't this a living being (human and whatnot) thing to do, trying to find and connect with beings alike?
But instead of trying to connect back, it's outsourced to "therapist", regardless of conditions financial, even societal... do you know there are people who, depending on their country, can't really simple "walk into a therapist room" due to their sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion, characteristics upon which they would be persecuted and/or harassed if they tried to seek someone IRL?
Using my own personal anecdote: I lost count of how many "professionals" I sought, I got even deeper thoughts than those described by the op. I did "seek help" since my childhood... Still NONE solved my "problem", whatever my "problem" is. Partly because my "problem" involves non-mundane matters, and a psychiatrist, upon hearing how I'm a devotee of Lilith, pushes me the label of "Schizotypal" because the society around me (Brazilian) is overly christian (but if, instead of mentioning "Lilith" or "Lucifer", I were to mention "Our Lady of Aparecida" or "Jesus Christ", then it'd be suddenly "normal"). Luckily, I'm not violently persecuted in Brazil (yet) for being an demonolater, but there are precedents.
In the end, "asking strangers from a social media instead of therapists" may be an attempt to connect (hopefully safely) to like-minded people who could, hopefully, understand better in a potential friendship than a therapist (who's not a friend, but a doctor doing a job) could in mere 2 hours per week.
Sorry if I'm being rude, but it's just that whenever I see the "seek a therapist" or "call this number" advises, I can't help but notice how hollow and totally unaware of a person's situation those are.
Yes ๐