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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Pin@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] camelwize@piefed.social 1 points 1 day ago

I struggle with this a lot, it doesn't help that I have crippling social anxiety so I already feel nervous about reaching out, then proceed to forget, then feel 10x as nervous because I feel guilty about my delayed response. All of that results in me not responding for even longer and making it worse.

Then I finally respond, feel so rubbish about the whole thing that it takes me forever to respond again.

So many of my online friendships have turned into basically penpal type arrangements because I get so delayed with my responses because of this.