Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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That iss fair. Hey I am glad you found yourself eventually. I hold the belief that no matter the starting age or genetics transition can lead to happiness for anyone. Time and time again I have seen older trans women who started much later than I glowing so what I mean to say is that first it is never too late (no matter how painful and slow progress is) and that I am proud of you that you eventually started and took steps to control of your gender expression too ❤️
oh yes, fully agree - it's never too late to start, even if it's pretty much always better to start earlier 😅
for me anyway that was true (I don't want to assume too much about others, but it does seem like it's true for most of us) - I didn't think I would ever pass and I thought I was signing up for being visibly trans the rest of my life.
In particular what I think is worth it is the hormones - I really didn't understand how significantly the wrong hormones can impact mood and mental health.
So from that perspective I tend to think we need to be on the right hormones regardless of what age we are - just to be healthy and happy. Obviously it's hard to live as a visibly trans person, but you just never know how it's going to go (I was completely wrong, for example).
Life is so much better than I ever understood it could be - and I was so mistaken about gender, lol. My whole life I thought it was something trivial, that gender was just social and gender expression was about what clothes I wore or how I was treated socially - I didn't understand gender has such strong biological components and could be a major medical issue with serious consequences for mental health (caused by the hormones and biology, not from something like not being able to wear the clothes you want).
Anyway, I just wish I had learned some things earlier, and it makes my heart full when I see younger folks figuring it out and living better lives 🥰