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Honestly the way a lot of the Tinder-style ones (swiping) are designed it almost feels like they're meant to be half-assed? You can't filter by likes, just exclude by dislikes (ex. Don't include people who don't want kids, don't include smokers, etc) because there's no search anymore. They just show you a profile, and you swipe.
When I was using them I very quickly stopped reading bios before they matched back. I just swiped right on everyone, checked daily for new matches, read those profiles and blocked/messaged people based on what was in their profile.
Speaking on filters, though: They don't even work. I had men filtered out, and I ended up getting about 25% of profiles being men. Like, the only gender tag they had was "Man," which lead to a lot of the "Idk why they even showed me to you I have men filtered out" message being sent.
The top of the funnel I could see an argument for not putting a lot of thought in. You're just trying to get a pool of potential matches. (The apps are cruel for making you pay for this and not just giving you the list up front)
But once you do have a match, you have to put in some effort to stand out. A lot of people get a match and all they write is "hey", and then they go right into the trash. Why would I engage with someone who just wrote "hey" when I could instead talk to someone who read my profile and said something personalized?
Also swiping yes on everyone might do strange things to their recommendation algorithm. Unfortunately that's a black box, but I wouldn't be surprised if that puts you in some sort of chum bucket shadow ban situation.
And also, yeah, making you pay for basic filters is a trashy design. Match group should be broken up.
Maybe, but it did happen earlier on before I'd started, so I think the filters are just kinda not great to start
I had that happen to me, too, and I'm a straight man. Never really wanted to do gay stuff, and yet Tinder would constantly throw in gay matches as if to say "are you SURE you don't wanna do a little experimenting while we watch?"