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I know this is not c/casualconversation but OP you gave me an opportunity to share the funniest dating story I have ever heard of, from first-hand experience unfortunately. This was in middle/late 2023
I... am not that great. Pretty mediocre looks, Asian guy (there's research on this lol) in the US, and the Autism is very strong... so I only ever got 2 matches, neither of which worked out. One of them was particularly brutal because we talked on the app for a whole month, finally met in a coffee shop... and I immediately got ghosted afterwards. I think at that point (2 mo) Hinge started only showing me ppl I have already seen so I deleted the app. However
The person I talked for a month with mentioned a local arcade that I didn't think much of. Later in 2023 I decided to visit, on 2023-12-09... and holy shit they have all my favorite games, and they even had a DDR (technically ITG) cab and a maimai cab that are basically workouts. I instantly signed up for the monthly membership (which was way cheaper than a gym) and started going there at least 3 times a week, probably for like 3-4 hours at once. That was literally what got me through the end of grad school
I still have a picture I took the first time I went of a Sound Voltex cab (6th gen, "EXCEED GEAR") and how I got destroyed on a song I would now do as a warmup routine... which is why I knew the exact date I visited the arcade btw, the picture is timestamped
So what was I typing. No dating pool isn't great
late reply was just scrolling through c/asklemmy
I read that Asian Male and Black Female are the most "undesirable" in the western dating world... so... yeah...
Tough luck
Which is why my older brother is going back to China for marriage lmfao
Cuz he aint ever gonna get with a girl here in the US, hes socially awkward af, and there's just a lot of Asians girls dating white dudes... so yeah...
I don't feel like going back to China due to political reasons so I guess I'll just remain single for the rest of my life, since I'm an "undesirable" to most people... ๐
Edit: I mean I guess I can go to Taiwan, Singapore, Malaysia, and maybe meet ethnic Chinese... but I doubt my US Citizenship and being able to come to the US is even desirable to them when considering... um... current politics... ๐
But then again, my brother has a visa ready to go back to China and presumably gonna bring some girl to the US after they get married... so like... idk wtf is he even doing, my mom orchestrated all his dating stuff... arranged marriage basically... ๐คทโโ๏ธ