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Lol smokers
Lol non-smokers
Ngl, I do enjoy smoking. But I just don't because it's so fucking bad for you. I do tease, but my heart goes to you. Seriously, if you can ever manage, do quit as soon as you can. If you must suck something regularly that's much healthier and more fun, I suggest a nice clean dick.
Thank you but no thank you. Back where I'm from this would be seen as an insult, but I get the sentiment.
I should really switch to something else. I've been considering crack and meth, but that's expensive. Although looking at the price of cigarettes these days, it might be a viable alternative soon. Cheers.
Real talk: have you seriously thought about a therapist? There are therapists that will do it for free or very very little money. Or you could reduce the amount you smoke, and spend that money on a therapist instead. Instead of 1-3 packs every few days and smoking whenever you think about it, only have a cigarette at most every three hours.
Also, do NOT start crack or meth. Those are not drop pits easily escaped, and starting either of those at all have dire, insidious, very real consequences. Take back power over your life in a more constructive way, like drinking orange juice and brushing your teeth and not smoking. Regain that frontal lobe control clarity that's in there by getting your shit together. Take real steps that you've gotta do. Make changes, no matter how small or large. You can do it, nothing is written in stone and you have so much more power over your life and surroundings than you currently know. Take a deep breath, look deep down inside your heart and soul, and see the happy healthy future you that you know you are, and forcibly make that your reality. Fucking do it and don't take pain as an answer. It's never too late to stop, let it all slide off, realize this is not what you want, and take yourself in a totally different direction. You just gotta stand up and move your feet. And even if you don't do it right now, know that you have, and will always have this power over yourself. Change is inevitable and the only constant of the universe.
You're no fun at all.
You talk about it like it's such a big problem. It's just a slightly harmful addiction. And if there's no danger, where's the fun? All the good things in life are at least slightly dangerous or harmful. Drugs, acohol, partying, sex, traveling, even sports and recreational activities. I am aware of the harm, and fine with it. I could spend my life thinking about preserving it, eating healthy, going to the gym, watching my hormone levels and nutrition. But that would be hell. Why live for a long time if every minute of that life is spent worrying about it ending? Why worry? Taking calculated risks is a part of life. The pitfall is not knowing the risk and still taking it.
Or at least that's how I see it.
My feelings have little to nothing to do with my state of mind. I can feel no joy in life and know that it is worth living. I don't need a therapist. All the "Mental Health Professionals" I worked with were unable to handle me. So what? I don't have my shit together, and I probably never will. Why should I pretend that THIS is the part of life I should worry about? I have bigger problems than quitting smoking or being happy. For now, it's an unhealthy coping mechanism, and I'm fine with it.
But, you know, thanks for the motivational speech and all. 👍