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Why wouldn’t you want to get married (lemmy.today)
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I just saw someone else post asking why someone would want to get married, so I'm curious to see the opposite. Within the U.S., you can pretty much marry whoever you want as long as they are of age, and many legal benefits come with that. I personally know a couple who have been together for 20 years, and we live in a state that doesn’t recognize common-law marriage, so they are now considering it. Are there other situations where it simply makes sense to not get married?

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

For a long time, the taxes worked better with one Head of Household filer and one Single, that's the way you are required to file as unmarried parents, it gave us a bigger standard deduction. Benefits at work could still cover everyone.

I also didn't want to be required to stay, wanted to stay because I wanted to.

Also wasn't religious so didn't have to get married to have sex or kids.

And lastly, I just didn't really want to be a wife, there's a lot of baggage and history associated with that. And a wedding was certainly never my dream, either.

I am married now, because my husband really wanted to be married. Like, his preference was much stronger than mine. It's fine, didn't really change anything for me, we still want to be together and he & our families really, really, really enjoyed the wedding when we had it, like still talk about how nice it was. So I guess I was wrong in some ways.