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So. I've had multiple experiences. I'm poly, so some strange scenarios ahead, but as an adult here they are, in the order they started:
Met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues, but the relationship was... Fine. She definitely had issues, but nothing worse than I had. Also the only one of these I date while being coworkers.
Next one I met through work. Only lasted 2 months, and her fiance's girlfriend had to coach her through breaking up with me because she had a stack of cotton candy where most people have a spine.
Next one I'm still with 6 years later, almost 7. Met on a dating app, and it's been fairly smooth since.
Next one I met through work. Been together for about 7 years as well (3 weeks after previously mentioned relationship started)
Next one I also met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues.
Next one lasted 3 months. It ended amicably, we just weren't great as partners.
Next major partner was the only abusive one I've had. Met her through a friend who I met on a dating app. Real piece of work, but I got a room mate for 3 years out of the deal so hey. Silver linings. (I kept the boyfriend in the breakup)
Next one was someone I met on a dating app. Ended it because their spouse was unsafe to be around.
Next one is the girl who coached second partner through breaking up with me. Yeah. Wild experience. I met her through the that partner, we screeched like pterodactyls at each other, and stayed friends after the breakup. We're officially just FWBs, but... It'll be 4 years this year, so worth mentioning regardless?
Overall it's a fuckin' grab bag. Dating apps are great, meeting through work goes well, and apparently helping your ex's fiance break up with their partner because said fiance's spinal cord was replaced with spun sugar doesn't sour things all that much.