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I'm autistic because I want people to follow the written rules of society?
Don't fucking run red lights and do stop for pedestrians is pretty much all I ask, but that's too much in the small city I live in for at least a few people every day.
It isn't "follow the rules", it is "do the right thing"
Big difference
As I said to someone recently, it is illegal to smash a brick into the heads of every corrupt fascist ICE thug going around committing endless acts of domestic terrorism. It is still morally correct to do so.
Illegal≠immoral/bad/wrong, legal≠moral/good/right.
Unironocally yes.
The point is the average person doesn't give a shit. That's the baseline. It's why without enforcement, no one follows rules detrimental to themselves. It's why going 50 in a 50 is considered ridiculous.
The fact that it even pisses you off enough to write that out is evidence enough lol. Maybe. Not the one thing by itself....
Source: Late diagnosed adhd, probably autistic, said the same kind of things as you before I realized I'm just.... not typical
Average people give an average shit. They tend to see what comes close to goring their own ox and ignore what's out of view.
When you're on an empty road, it feels ridiculous to go 50 in a 50 because nobody is in your way.
When it's bumper to bumper traffic, it feels ridiculous to go 50 in a 50 because you'd immediately collide with the car in front of you.
When everyone else is going 50, it feels sensible to keep up with the herd, even when a sign indicates a different speed is more appropriate.
Ignoring the circumstances in favor of the written rule isn't virtuous on its face. Sometimes the rules are wrong and you need to use your own judgement. Sometimes the rules are there for reasons that go deeper than their most literal interpretation.
Pretty much.
I worked in tech and there's a lot of morally gray things.
For example: the law is pretty clear on what a company should and shouldn't store as data. Yet every year, tech companies violate it. A few even get lawsuits because of how bad they did it. Thousands don't.
The engineers (many who only want to do the right thing) see it pretty clearly. Don't leak shit. Don't give out personal info. Secure that shit. Extremely clear guidelines.
But, from our higher ups, we are constantly told "ah that doesn't apply to us" and follow whatever the marketing/analytics/data team wants.
Been this way for decades.