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Hey, what's everyones dating experience?

I went on a few dates but never had any luck. I noticed most girls basically want the guy to be downtown, have a fairly good job and among other things.

After reading self-made man, I kinda get the feeling the author is not wrong. Woman tend to put men on probation, even unfairly.

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[–] 5ibelius9insterberg@feddit.org 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Take a look at how many woman are murdered by there partners. Take a look at how many woman experience sexual harassment or worse often at a very young age.

I think it’s pretty reasonable for a woman to put a man „on probation“ until he „probates“ himself.

None of this is your fault. But it’s also not the fault of the woman your dating.

And to be honest: everyone should take a very good look at a potential partner and be sure who this person is, that you try to spend (at least a significant part of) your life with.

[–] lautan@lemmy.ca -1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

So that’s a pretty big escalation and isn’t what she was discussing. Did you read her book? She was referring to when a woman gets hurt emotionally or whatever, she will take that experience and apply that to all men. Then basically the man is morally corrupt by default until proven otherwise.

[–] Janx@piefed.social 1 points 4 days ago

when a woman gets hurt emotionally or whatever

Like... when men lie, cheat, harass, or are abusive? How could you say that's not relevant!? 81% of women will experience sexually harassment and/or assault in their lifetime. So yeah, I think it's natural and reasonable for them to protect themselves, including emotionally, until we've proven ourselves...