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[–] belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org 81 points 2 days ago (1 children)

God, you can come out at any age, your 20s isnt too old. Your 30s isnt too old. Your 70s isnt too old.

Stop this shit.

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 55 points 2 days ago (3 children)

youre totally right their 30s is not too old.

my 30s on the other hand..

I saw a woman on reddit a couple of years ago that transitioned at 70 and shes so happy. You got this ❤️

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (3 children)

No, but you see, I already have broad hips. I’ll never pass as a dude, so why try?

Sorry, I meant this to also be light-hearted, but it’s… not.

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago

dwdw i know some dumpy dudes

amab enby here, I've got incredibly wide hips for a "dude" and you'd never notice unless you actually walked up and checked. Work out your shoulders a bit and I can almost guarantee that nobody will notice once you've been on T for a while.

One of my wife's buddies has been on T for 6 years since he turned 18 and you'd never guess he wasn't born a dude. Like one time his family put up a pre-transition picture of him and she didn't know and thought he had a sister he looks so different now.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Are you on T yet? You'd be surprised how much of the "broad hips" goes away when your body fat starts redistributing. Add some upper body workouts and you'll look so good, I promise!

I'm currently on the opposite journey, and if I can gain hips you can lose them. You just have to give the hormones a little time to work.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I’m not, because my real worry is that I’ll regret it.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 days ago

You'll figure it out.

Between binders, packers, and whatever magic drag kings draw upon, there are plenty of ways to "preview" the kinds of changes that T would cause.

But the good news is that while the changes from hormones are mostly permanent, they're also slow. If you did start taking T, you'd have a little while to see how you feel before anything gets super noticable.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Any exercises I could do for getting more wide hips?

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago

Unironically, walking everywhere helps a lot. I went on a month long trip to Japan and was doing minimum 15000 steps a day. When I got back, literally everyone noticed my hips were significantly thicker.

Bodyweight squats and yoga also help a ton, but require a bit more effort obviously.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

https://youtube.com/watch?v=-x5B8F9ubdc

This is what I'm trying right now. I can't personally speak to the results yet since I just started, but the general science is solid.

This routine is for hips and glutes, but I guess you could just do the hip ones if for some reason you don't want a round sexy butt

Disclaimer: this company is selling a course, but they have some beginner exercises available for free on youtube. The free ones are what I'm doing now.

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago

*laughs in 40 years old*