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[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I've gone my entire life without hating myself for being a man. It's super easy

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Pray tell your secrets. Deafness? Overblown ego?

[–] Uruanna@lemmy.world 12 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

Recognize what others do that you don't do

Admit which things are bad or not, understand why they are bad or not, and chose to not do the things that are bad

See the distinction between others and you

If you do things and you learn that they are bad and hurt others, work on it to understand what's going on and make a better decision, don't feel insulted and get mad at people telling you that something you did is hurting others

Don't take things personally as an attack on yourself, don't bind your identity to a larger group

[–] Herr_S_aus_H@lemmy.zip 6 points 18 hours ago

I would like to add that it is really not that hard to do, all things considered.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Understand that women aren't lying when they say they've had awful experiences with men, and that even though I'm a nice guy, they have absolutely no reason to believe that I'm any different if they've never met me before. How a woman that I don't know feels about me doesn't matter at all to me, because the women that I do know have no problems with me.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry I don't buy that, for the same reason that I don't buy the same kind of argument about people of color.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

On the surface it seems analogous, but it really isn't. White people don't have uniquely bad experiences with black people that they don't also have with other white people, and that black people don't also have with other black people. This isn't true of men and women. Nearly every woman has a story of that time a man wouldnt leave her alone and started threatening her. Some men have that kind of experience with a woman, and very very few people have that kind of experience with some of the same sex

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

So if white people mostly had bad experiences with black people and usually not with other white people, do you think it would be OK to say derogatory things about black people as a group? Merely based on the color of their skin?

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

~~I could put in the effort to write a while paragraph I response to this, but we're deep enough in this thread that nobody else is likely to ever see it, and I know you aren't smart enough to change your opinion on things when given good reason to. I'll just leave it at this: nobody in this comic or comments section is saying derogatory things about men as a group based solely on their sex~~

Oh what the hell, I'll write a proper response before I block you

If black people were almost universally taller, stronger, and faster than white people, and virtually every single white person had had experiences being threatened by a black person in a way that they'd never been threatened by another white person, and in a way that the vast majority of black people had never been threatened by a white person, and in a way that the vast majority of black people had never been threatened by another black person, then it would make sense for white people to exercise extra caution around black people that they'd never met. It still wouldn't be okay to say derogatory things about black people as a group merely based on the color of their skin.

It's a good thing nobody is making derogatory statements about men based solely on their sex here.