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The study later got retracted due to backlash but the fact that it happened at all if fucking baffling.

Don't forget this study that instead of studying the causes or cures for endo studied the mental effects of the men in a relationship with someone who has endo.

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[–] seathru@quokk.au 136 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

I've watched my best friend with this go from getting told "We can't do a hysterectomy, you might want to have kids!" (despite protests to the contrary) to "well, we can't be sure you have it without invasive surgery" to "you're almost menopause age, it'll go away then".

I'm furious for her, it's been tough to watch at times.

[–] excursion22@piefed.ca 7 points 9 hours ago

You're watching Healthcare for Women, after the break, a special feature on "your chronic pain and fatigue isn't real".

[–] mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 61 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I can add one to that… My partner has it. Like 100% without a doubt has it. Surgically confirmed, when she had her tubes removed. They said there was so much endo that they couldn’t even remove all of it without a blood transfusion. Again, she cannot get pregnant without donated eggs and in vitro fertilization, because she has no fallopian tubes at all.

They’ve refused to do a full hysterectomy, because “but you might want to do in vitro later…”

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Im confused. Can you not just tell them to do it anyways? How can they refuse?

[–] Afaithfulnihilist@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I don't know how you get them to do what you're asking but they can refuse by simply saying no. And if you are insufficiently servile in accepting that they will find ways of punishing you.

"How do we find a doctor who will cooperate?" is a great way to find out what kind of secret things doctors and hospitals can do to fuck up your life for threatening to go around them or hurting their feelings.

[–] UnculturedSwine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Reading all the comments in this whole goddamn post infuriates me to no end. I have an elderly friend with bipolar who got chewed up and spit out by the legal/medical system because she wasn't the most cooperative and they basically did things like put her on a heavy dose of haldol which turned her into a zombie to make her more cooperative and fuck with her heart meds almost like they were trying to give her heart attack. It's part of the reason I hate doctors.

[–] Afaithfulnihilist@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Hating doctors for the state of healthcare is like hating fast food workers for the state of the fast food industry. Very few of them are actual owners and every franchise is a front for some rent extraction by an inheritor leech. Any remaining quality just means the owner class didn't extract enough value from it.

Your comparison is stupid. Fast food workers have almost no power over the people they serve. Doctors have an immense amount of power to fuck up your life especially if you're legally required to do what they say. Not an insignificant number will do so if you hurt their feelings. All you need to do is read some of the comments on this post to be informed of that. It's a problem with the system and a number of individuals with power in the system. I hate doctors because I can never know beforehand if one that I'm seeing is such an individual.

[–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 hours ago

Curious is this was in progressive state or not. Or was it another country altogether.