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One that always annoyed me is when it is around the holidays, when stores advertise gifts for men. They always assume a guy is into toilet humor, beer humor, assuming they're a lumberjack who needs to survive out in the wilderness, are into bbq-ing all of the time so gotta have those available all year around for some reason.

Even when I used to have identified myself as a guy, I never once fit into any of those traits. Just because guys grow beards, doesn't always mean they're chopping wood somewhere and always wearing plaid.

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[–] MotoAsh@piefed.social 7 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

I mean, to be fair, a lot of women's clothing is geared to be sexually attractive. Just because it's been normalized doesn't make it untrue. Something can be normal and sexualized.

Or do you think there's a practical, unsexy benefit of women's pants having tinyass pockets and being skin tight?

Not that I agree with their complaints. I'm totally fine with people dressing how they want, unless it's dragging their bare unwiped ass all over the furniture.

[–] bstix@feddit.dk 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing clothes that fit well and makes you look good, but it will be judged.

On the internet in general and specifically on YouTube, it's difficult for handsome people to do anything at all without being accused of doing normal stuff while being attractive just to increase monetization.

It's a weird kind of gate keeping, but I do understand it. There are definitely channels that only exist for that reason, and it might be annoying to see your favorite topic being used by someone who ought to be on OnlyFans instead. However, it doesn't actually take anything away from anyone, so it's really just a 'crabs in a bucket' mentality, where nobody are allowed to stand out.

[–] MotoAsh@piefed.social 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Yea, agreed. Anyone complaining about something being too attractive is really just advertizing their own insecurity and/or lack of self control.

Who the fuck wants an ugly environment?!