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I've noticed that when you want a question answered it's best to put your own answer in a comment and let the post only be describing or clarifying the question. When you put a question and your answer together in the post, the question reads more rhetorical since you've already given "the answer", and your answer will be what people discuss rather than giving their own answers.
My sexist stereotype that needs to stop is that men are not good with kids, or unsafe.
I want to see more men playing with kids, being handed strangers kids to hold at gatherings, men hugging and cuddling kids. It's no more suspicious or odd for a man to enjoy and appreciate and be caring with children (not just his own) than it is for a woman.
I have no qualms asking a strange child if they want help if I see them struggling (seeming lost, trying to reach something, scared of the escalator, whatever), and I want men to feel equally comfortable stepping in without being afraid of what people might think they're up to... Because people need to stop thinking men are up to something when they are clearly trying to have a positive impact.
This is one thing that I'm pretty self conscious about. I don't know if it's because I've spent a lot of time on the internet and see lots of actual creeps on there but it's often on my mind in public to try not to come off as a creep. The only exception is with my nieces or nephew, I'll be dammed if someone's going to accuse me of something because I'm playing with them or keeping an eye on them in public, but outside of that, I'm a single guy in his 30s and that don't look good, so I keep to myself.
Actually, as I was typing this out I remembered the guy that I saw while I was with my nieces and their parents waiting for some food at a fast food place a few months back. The place was busy so we were all there for a while and this old guy comes up nearby, waits for a while, then complains out loud to us. Ok, that's normal, but then he just hangs out for a while close to the kids. After we get the last of our food as the youngest is getting off of a stool, he reaches out to help her off, holding her under the arms. That type of situation is exactly what I try to avoid. Maybe he was harmless and thought she needed a hand, that for some reason the three adults she knew couldn't provide, but keep your hands off the kid, we don't know you. (She was not struggling to get off the stool)