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I've never found it hard to avoid offending trans people. Just don't be a dick, be respectful instead.
You usually won't find it hard to avoid offending people with reasonable expectations. Just don’t be a dick, be respectful instead.
But there can be unreasonable in all groups. You just haven't met an unreasonable trans person yet.
Although I haven't either and the depictions I know of might just have been another one of those social stunts, there most probably are a few out there.
Well, yeah, I know how to behave. I have a long history of participating in the trans community. I'm not foreign to any of these things.
But none of that matters when the other person misinterprets what you're saying or what you mean, attributes malice to your words, and refuses to change their perspective when you try to explain, while demanding an apology for what is essentially an innocuous comment as if you killed their cat.
The fact of the matter is that, much like the atheist community that I've come to abhor after being a part of it for over a decade, the trans community also has its fair share of crazies. And those aren't even my words, but the words of a trans friend with whom I used to go to these trans events. He also got fed up with their bullshit and would rant at me about them while sharing screenshots. And even now I try to be more patient than him, but sometimes I think to myself, "holy shit, he was right."