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At the moment, everything.
This time last year, I was meant to be buying my own apartment and finally moving out from my parents' home. Then I got laid off, spent seven months struggling to find work and then landed a temporary purchase ledger job which I fucking hate. Partially because the commute takes me about 2 hours each way, partially because I work an 8-5 shift and have to get up at stupid o'clock in the morning on office days, and partially because we use Oracle Fusion which is the biggest crock of shit I've ever used.
Unfortunately that means I have to live with my parents for even longer. Renting somewhere is out of the question because Bristol is the second-most expensive British city to live in, and I basically can't get a mortgage without a full time job.
Sometimes I question why I chose to pivot towards accounting. I have a History degree, I'm fully AAT qualified and I'm halfway through my ACCA and I'm earning £13.50 an hour, or just £1.29 above minimum wage on a zero-hours contract. I can genuinely earn nearly as much from stacking shelves, flipping burgers or pouring pints, not that there's really many hospitality or retail jobs available. Office days genuinely take 13 hours out of my day. 8 of these are working, 4 of these are the commute and 1 is the lunch break I get.
My future is uncertain and I feel like there's no point in bothering. Best-case scenario, AI is truly a bubble that's going to burst, crash the stock market and leave us in a recession. At worst, it takes all our jobs and the rich leave us to starve.
Despite a brief relationship with a woman who finally popped my cherry (we're still really close friends and I'm grateful she took my virginity), my love life is practically nonexistent. Online dating is an absolute void where I only seem to match with GPS-spoofing South-East Asian and African women either pulling love scams or trying to find a Western spouse and the means to a green card. Two ladies messed around with my feelings and led me on big time this year and that's left me exhausted.
I have a lipoma on my neck which is going to cost me a lot to remove, and good luck actually finding the time to get the consultation and surgery/liposuction booked. The NHS won't do it because it's not cancerous, even though this thing has grown to the point where it's 5.5cm in diameter and sticks out like a sore thumb.
Time to leave America, if that's where you are. Really. Come to anywhere else eastward, just across the pond. We gotchu. Work, women, healthcare. Maybe take care of the last and first one first, then the second will come trailing.
Did you miss the pound signs and the fact they literally said they were in Bristol, England? They are across the pond, and having an awful time. Also, do you think that America and England don’t have women?
Ah, England. Yeah maybe go somewhere within the EU. 😅
Of course America and England have women? I just said we do. 🤷♂️
Too bad we got dragged kicking and screaming out of the EU five years ago. Securing a job offer and work visa is going to be really difficult, and I don't speak another language.
Everybody loooves speaking English in the EU. "We" can't stop ourselves. Even when we detect only a slight hint of an American or English accent, we'll start yapping away in English, even when you are literally speaking our language. 😅 Language won't be a barrier. Even though our behavior there can be quite obnoxious lol. I think "we" are just trying to flex. Quite sad. Except possibly the French. They will still pretend French is the Lingua Franca.
But yeah... Shame about that Brexit. Wish I could help you there, friend. 🥲
When you were in school they gave you your tests face down, didn’t they?
I got good grades, if that's what you are trying to insult me with. What's your problem? Can you just be real and talk to me like a person? What are you trying to say? I know every country has women, ffs. I'm also saying we in the EU have healthcare and jobs almost everywhere.
Is that wrong? What's the issue and why the insults? Try to keep it an adult conversation, please. Thanks.
What’s your problem? I wasn’t put on this earth to talk with or educate you. I SAID I no longer have any interest in talking to you; you can’t understand that but you got shining grades?
Why don’t you go demand things from some other person; because I guarantee you don’t want to take this further.
My problem is you being rude for no reason. We try to be nice to each other here on Lemmy. Your account age tells me maybe you haven't figured out the vibe here yet. It's not the same as Reddit. We try to keep a chill vibe and not threaten people and insult them, like you are doing.
I am not "shining" my grades. You were insulting my grades in school, I'm just defending myself from your your defamation. 👍 Simple as that. And now that part of the conversation is water under the bridge, I'm willing to forget that. 🙂
What "demands" do you claim I'm making?
Thanks for being more chill in your responses from now on. I'm not here to bicker and argue. Just straightening things out, okie dokie? 🤝
Responding to myself so as not to provoke that beast of a person. Fully convinced now that the shebeast was just mad I took the high road and she doubled down on the nasty behavior. Calling a family man with a wife and two kids an incel. 😂 Then having the comment chain removed up until my last nice comment. Love it. Justice.