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[orange, looking weary, while pink looks on] Mate… Why would you say you're hetero, the person you're dating used to be a dude, that makes you gay

[green, holding hands with pinkblue] The person you're dating used to be a kid, so… you're a pedophile?

[orange looks pissed]

[green shrugs smugly]

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[–] my_hat_stinks@programming.dev 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Queer is a reclaimed umbrella term for any non-cis or non-hetero relationship. If two men were in a relationship they might consider themselves queer. It's not really a word you'd ascribe to other people, it's self-descriptive.

A man and woman in a relationship is a hetero relationship, if one or both are trans or gender non-confirming they may consider themselves queer. It's with noting that a hetero relationship does not necessarily mean they're straight either, bi or pan people often date the opposite gender.

I wouldn't normally consider a non-monogamous relationship queer by default, otherwise anyone who cheats would be queer.

Since it's a reclaimed slur the best move is to not use it at all unless the person you're talking about has made it clear they're comfortable being described that way by you.