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Eh, it's not one specific thing that triggered it. I was left alone too long, and realized I was failing. So I made some very dark and cynical conclusions that didn't help my growth at all. Basically, I believed I was inferior to other people, and that the only way I can achieve anything is to throw away my life, and focus on success instead, which backfired (trying to suppress all emotions just made me unmotivated and miserable, which was made worse by ADHD). Took quite the long time to realize something.
Nowadays, I'm trying to establish a balance to compartmentalize my time, expectations, and experiences. I want to keep a routine and discipline, so that when it's time to say, draw something, I will only do that, and care about nothing else. Only care about work during work, only be available to friends at a certain time, and work on myself with a cool head.
The idea is to be completely detached from the outcome. I don't care if I fail or succeed, since trying too hard also backfired in the past. Worrying too much about a problem just caused extreme anxiety and brain fog.
Instead, it is important to just go through routine and try, try to have some semblance of a meaningful life, with no expectations.
So far, I can't really even do that, I have a lot of disfunction to make up for, somehow. I tend to forget what I'm supposed to do for entire hours...
I beat the worst of my depression and anxiety by connecting this very idea to the realization that my brain would start writing stories to explain my feelings, and those stories didn't necessarily need to even make sense, but those repetitions were reinforcing a feeling, which reinforced the thoughts, which reinforced the feelings... etc, etc. It's called rumination and it's the enemy of life and happiness.
Learning to identify where my feelings start attacking my thoughts helped me beat rumination but that's only the first step.
You're on the next step, which is healing and trying to find new meaning. It will get better, but keep pushing yourself to discomfort, to doing things you're not used to. Your brain is locked into "survival mode" and that means a lot of executive function is still in safe-mode, bare necessities for survival only. It makes it harder to experience joy or fulfillment from even the small things that people enjoy.
Some of my therapists have told me this heals and you will rebuild yourself. I can tell it is healing slowly, but it takes so much time. I wish I could tell you how long it takes. I'm still on that step.
It takes forever, as it is always an ongoing process that keeps healing. It will get better for us though.