I'll probably never stop feeling irrationally guilty at times when my ADHD and/or my anxiety hinders me from getting stuff done, but being able to remind myself and explain to others makes it easier to carry it and not let myself descend into a guilt spiral that hinders me even further and for longer.

[–] lemjukes@sopuli.xyz 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

It helps once you have the emotional maturity and skills to contextualize your own dysfunctions and divergences as such. Even with a diagnosis on the early side, everything I do wrong or fail to execute on is inherently still, and always will be, my fault.

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 days ago

Sure, emotional maturity is a big part of it as well, but with no knowledge about the causes for your more vexing hurdles and limitations, you can be endlessly mature and STILL not know how to tell laziness or apathy from executive dysfunction 🤷🏻

[–] technocrit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

A diagnosis is just a generalization of the "symptoms". And the "cures" for the symptoms are almost always drugs and almost never address the actual problems - family, society, etc.

[–] a_postmodern_hat@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

The idea that society is the problem could be true from the point of view of an ND person, but I don’t feel it’s the whole picture. I think there is a more helpful way to frame it.

ND naturally think and act in ways that are different from NT people, and may need different things, just as NT have needs and ways of thinking and acting that are natural to them.

So a better way to understanding the problem might be as miscommunication and lack of understanding. Sometimes the problem is ignorance and lack of empathy. This can happen on both sides.

A diagnosis gave me language and understanding to identify ways I’m different from other people, and helped me understand and communicate these differences.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

personal mitigation is a lot easier than changing family/society/&c. i get why people medicate.

[–] Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Rafiki whacks you on the head with his staff.

Go talk to a therapist!

[–] hellothere@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago

I do that too!

[–] Baggie@lemmy.zip 7 points 3 days ago

That really sucks dude. Nobody should feel like that.

It's not helped me that much either, but it has at least given me a level of understanding, and a route to direct self compassion down. It's a really slow process, and it's not linear or steady, but it is something.