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I tried dating subreddits before. Results were not good.
The problem is that online dating is a miserable experience from a heterosexual perspective. I cannot really speak for the LGBTQ experience but I do have a lesbian friend who has pretty much been undateable.
On every dating/hook-up subreddit every single "M4F" post gets mass-downvoted and practically hidden from view, while every "F4M" post is swarmed with desperate and thirsty guys whose comments can be summed up in just five words: "PLEASE HAVE SEX WITH ME." You see the same shit on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Happn, Okcupid, POF and every other dating app.
Women can easily swipe right on any guy and 99,999 times out of 100,000 match with them, meet up with them and bang them in less than two hours if they wanted to. Men on the other hand get zero matches unless you look like a fucking Chippendale, are over 6ft, have a big dick, have a nice bank account and a decent job.
The internet has turned us hypergamous, and we wonder why the incel community is growing at an alarming rate...
y'know, i really thought lemmy would be better than this but i guess it is just fucking reddit all over again.
this stupid "men have to be chad thundercock or die alone!!!1111 it's so easy for women waahhhhh" shit is just a divisive incel talking point with no basis in reality. you literally just pulled numbers out of your ass too. the incel community is growing at an alarming rate because of all the talking heads on social media who purport this trash and people like you who mindlessly repeat it.
He is talking specifically about online dating, where judging by superficial looks is the whole goal and populations that are in it for the hookups are heavily male skewed and always will be. If you think that's your only option then yes- it really is "so easy for women" and "men have it so hard". That entire ecosystem is an absolute cesspit and always has been.
If you date the "normal" way- aka, making friends and connections face to face, things haven't really changed significantly and your chances are good if you just stay clean and personable. You just have to put actual effort into being a social human being, which is where the internet drags far too many of these kids off track.
Exactly. You need to check all the boxes online before women will take the risk. To be clear, online dating is shit for them too. A lot of those matches, are people you wouldn't want to match with once you get to know them.
Off-line? Entirely different. Join a club, get to know people, they see you're probably not going to kidnap them or that you have a nice personality and even the ugliest guy stands a chance of dating very nice women.