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Its meant as a broad question as i would like some diverse input.
I have an "unfit" and rigid ruleset of how i define friends and how someone can be one.
It roots in my insecurities and want a starting point to redefine it in a healtier way.

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[–] CaptSatelliteJack@lemy.lol 4 points 18 hours ago

I have 5 buddies I've known for between 10 and 15 years. We meet every week to play dnd in the garage, we play video games together on a regular basis. Only one of them is actually my friend. This person has talked to me about their personal struggles, and I've talked to them about mine. We share experiences with each other, and discuss even our most personal topics. Mental health, relationships, big picture plans, anything and everything. We keep in touch, at least occasionally, just for the sake of it, not just because we're trying to play a game together or something. This person is my only real friend. The rest are replaceable hobby buddies, that's it.