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[–] lena@gregtech.eu 29 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Imma need some context, stamets

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 62 points 16 hours ago (5 children)

I was living in Toronto and moved back to Newfoundland. I moved into a place with a friend. That friend started to go through some stuff and then started to take advantage of me in a lot of ways. Ways that I'm only still just realizing. Like I was doing laundry earlier and realized she never bought laundry detergent the entire time she was here, just used mine. For the better part of a year. Anyway she stopped paying bills for months and then stopped paying rent for. Last second was like "Evict me and find someone else!" but I was being a moron and was like "Nah you're my friend! Let's get through this!" and then the next day realized that she was waiting for me to do all the work for her. Lost my best friend.

Started looking for another roommate but I've found it nearly impossible. Didn't help I started looking in September when everyone had already found a place for university. At the end of September I had to make a post asking for help and donations to my ko-fi so I could afford rent. October went almost the entire month and I couldn't find someone as well. At the end of the month I messaged my sister, in a deep pit of emotional despair, asking if she could take the only good thing in my life and take care of her if I couldn't find a roommate. I love my cat. She needs to be happy and safe. Even if that means she's not with me... She said yes to taking care of the cat but also that she'd ask friends. And so she did. One of these friends reached out and said "My cousin is looking for a place, here's his number!"

So I texted this dude for a bit and all seemed okay but I was getting slightly off vibes from pics. He had pinpoint pupils in all of them and I could explain it away to an extent because he said he was on disability from an injury so maybe prescription meds did that. But he kept changing his mind about when he was moving in as well as the situations of how it was changing just felt odd. The day he was supposed to move in, October 31st, that friend messaged my sister again saying urgently to not let him move into the house. Evidently, he was stealing from the family to fuel a drug habit and they discovered it last minute when he was stealing their shit to pay for the move into my place. And I was a naive trusting idiot again and didn't bother taking a deposit so I was screwed.

A friend of mine posted here to lemmy saying 'Stamets needs help!' and just like when I asked for help the month before, a ton of people turned up to help me when I frankly don't deserve it. Again, I was able to make rent and even pay bills as people went above and beyond. But the sp3ctr4l specter of finding a roommate was still lingering and unfortunately I was terrified for my cat.

But.

A woman reached out the other day and asked to schedule a viewing. I asked if today would work because I pulled something in my back and I'm all kinds of screwy. She said sure. She showed up and took a look at the place today. Una immediately fell in love with her. She liked the place and we seemed to mesh pretty well. She's got her own cat as well so my kitty gets to have a friend! And... better yet... I get to stay with my kitty.

[–] lena@gregtech.eu 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Awww I'm so happy for you (and your kitty!)

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 hour ago

Thank you <3 And me too... Una has been a bit hissy to the new kitty but only in the sense of "Stay away from me". So hoping they'll warm up after a while

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Grats man, glad to hear everything worked out! Hell of a ride.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago

Very much so and not one that I particularly enjoyed...

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 20 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Being naive and trusting isn't a character flaw. The problem is that other people take advantage.

Calling yourself a naive and trusting idiot is victim blaming against yourself.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago

Call yourself an idiot and then call it a learning opportunity. You can be a victim and an idiot at the same time! :)

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Eh. There are limits to being trusting. I should have used some more caution in certain cases. Should have asked more. Should have asserted myself more. I'm not blameless in all of it.

[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

We learn from our mistakes, don't blame yourself for that, you learned and grown. I don't know you but I'm happy for you like everyone here :)

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago

And I thank you for it <3 I really am fucking happy for once in a while...

[–] fonix232@fedia.io 23 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

That girl hasn't been your best friend for a good while. Not since the moment she started taking advantage of you.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 10 hours ago

Oh we haven't really talked since anyway. I did text her after asking my sister to take Una... said how much I hated her because I was going to lose the only good thing in my life due to her. But when she texted back I realized it was a massive mistake and I blocked her.

[–] alquicksilver@lemmy.world 9 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

This makes me so happy to read. (Edit: the result, not the crap leading up to it.) Your posts bring me much joy in what is otherwise a quite depressing world right now, so hearing that you have some good going on in your life is excellent. I hope you thrive 💕

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 hours ago

So do I... and thank you so much. The world does need to suck a little less. I'm glad that I can help make things just a little less shitty. Sorry I've been lax on the posting past few days. Between roommate hunting and back pain it's been an event.