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All aboard the Dysphoria train (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world to c/translater@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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My partner offered to do my makeup today. I was excited both because she's been iffy on the whole transition thing and because she's very good at doing her own makeup and I was excited to get some instruction.

I've always thought I look young for my age and fairly attractive (if you're into mountain men) so I was cautiously optimistic about the results. But when she was done I looked in the mirror and my first thought was: shit, I hope Napoleon comes through that door and puts me out of my misery. I looked like an old french duke or a sad theatre queen in a Christmas pantomime.

Without the makeup I looked around 5 years younger than my age, but with it I looked easily 25 years older. My eyelids especially looked like poorly tanned leather. I know estrogen is amazing for your skin, but Jesus Christ does it have some heavy fucking lifting to do.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Makeup can have an aging effect, especially I find foundation, powder, and eye shadow can make my skin look less soft and more textured.

Ideally you learn what needs improvement and how to do that with makeup, and you use as little as possible to achieve the effect. I don't put on a glam look every time I walk out the door, but I ususally use a lash curler and mascara, I always use a cosmetic sunscreen, and I might cover up blemishes with concealer, and I ususally use a light pink tinted lip balm.

Unfortunately cis women can have fairly different approaches to makeup and fashion than trans women because what needs compensated and what looks good will be different.

So it's great to get a lesson at a place like Sephora to get started, but I would be watching makeup tutorials on youtube, particularly looking for feminizing makeup tips by trans women (you don't want drag queen makeup tutorials, you want something that targets looking natural and feminine at the end, drag is intentionally exaggerated and overdone).

Samantha Lux has a video on feminizing makeup that is decent.

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Thanks, that's actually very helpful.